Alright now...both of you should spend some hard time looking in the mirror. This guy comes to the board looking for help, and like many of us had no idea how or why or what to do about finding a girl who might actually accept him for who he is, fetish and all, but what does he end up with? Critism over one girl's (Noemie) looks and interests and another who starts berating him, and talking about how women find it sexy for men to smoke. I am sure both of you mean well, but why do our ego's always seem to get in the way of communication and helping somone out? Granted, the fetish is different among men. That's not the point though, at least here. This guy wanted advice. Well, here's my two cents on the issue (probably worth less). You can do like many fetishers do, hide in the closet all your life about it. You can find hookers, escorts, or strippers and pay them to smoke for you and keep it hidden that way. You can date or see female smokers and never mention your fetish. You can spend you time looking at pics on here, talking to a few women and more fakers on the net that will entertain you with charming anecdotes about smoking, maybe get lucky and meet some woman on here only to find out she is married to someone else with four kids and just wants to feel pretty. Finally, you can suck your testicles into your throat, swallow them down again, and take a chance that the girl you love unconditionally will also feel the same about you, accept your fetish, past behavior and present consequences, and maybe accept you and the fetish. Maybe you will find she has a differce of opinion about it, but then again, men and women rarely agree on much anyhow, why would the fetish be any different? Then again, she may tell you that she has always secretly enjoyed smoking in a sexual manner, and likes to exhale on people whenever she can for the turn on it gives her, especially if it winds them up to! Am I speaking from experience here? Hell yes I am, I told my wife, took the risk before marriage, and damn glad I did. My testicles finally went back to where they belong, and it is definately the "Road Less Travelled" but honesty and risk is a path that few dare take, especially with this fetish. I am not asking you to shout it to the world, but my advice is when you meet someone special, take the risk, let them know you and your special interest, you might be surprised.
