Sometimes pepple do make up things, exagerate. But Tom's story seems so normal to me. My grilfriend, a red head age 30 is also a heavy smoker. She asked me if I smoked within 2 minutes of me meeting her., I asked why . She said it turned her on. I think many female smokers are turned on by smoking, and play games that are sexual around smoking. My mother is also very flirtatious around men smoking, and I have seen her do the cigar thing too. My girlfriend keeps asking all the time why there isn't a forum for women about men smoking btw!!!! I believe Tom. I have been with many women like his wife. And yes when you give them long term commitment they can be even more intense about it. My girl dreses up how I like it to go to bed even. But she does it for herself not me! It makes her feel sexy she says ; and like Tom's wife knows smoking makes her the centre of attention from men.