I agree with the conservative approach. I think there is enough information and there are plenty of photos and opportunities to see women smoke on TV/movies that we can pretty much judge for ourselves an IRL lady when we see one. If the judgements were more liberal, for example saying somebody is IRL just because there is one picture in the Star rag of her smoking, I would be disappointed in that loose of a definition of IRL. But to each his own; I'm just lucky to fall into pretty much the same camp as Loring on this one.
