Modify Re:Dude, that's a guilt trip that requires a Road Atlas

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<font size=3 face="Arial" COLOR="#87CEFA"> You read a lot more into what I said than what was there. The point was and is that we're all different, just as you said originally.

Just to clarify a few things...

>>We've never seen that comment posted anywhere prior to now>>

Then you sure haven't looked very hard. I've seen at least a dozen similar sentiments expressed, and not on Vesperae's either.

>>So, if you smoke, that means you get a pass, right? But if you don't smoke and someone you never met smokes on camera and makes a few bucks on the side, that means you should feel guilty about watching it, right?>>

This was classic. First, I was not even remotely talking about smoking fetish models making some bucks. I was talking about enjoying watching  any woman slowly poisoning herself, and I do. That's not the turn-on part, but that's still what's happening. Second, I would NEVER EVER suggest what you or anyone else should or should not feel guilty about. In fact I know many people who go FAR beyond being secretive or dishonest with their spouses, and seem to feel no guilt at all. Doesn't bother me a bit.

>>We could see your point if a non-smoker (or even a smoker) was involved in somehow coercing another person to smoke (e.g., "Honey, since we're dating, you're going to start smoking so I can watch). Yeah, we could see your point on that one.>>

Good, but that's not really what I was talking about.

>>But for a non-smoker to feel a sense of guilt over the fact that a complete stranger happens to enjoy smoking and he/she gets to watch?>>

Almost everyone can justify anything depending on how they rationalize it. That's cool. I'm glad it works for you. For me, I'd have the fetish whether or not I smoked, but the fact that I do does erase any tinge of guilt I 'might' feel about it.

I wonder which person the average psychiatrist would think most needs help. The guy who may feel a little guilt in getting his rocks off by watching another person purposely hurt themselves, or the guy who decided at a young age he would never marry because he only likes smokers, but doesn't want the smell in his house. Hmmm.

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